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Discover whether you're Secure, Anxious, Avoidant, or Fearful-Avoidant, and what it means for your relationships.

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Based on the Experiences in Close Relationships scale · Used in over 1,000 peer-reviewed studies

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What this test unpacks

Fear of abandonment Need for reassurance Emotional independence Push & pull patterns Conflict style Intimacy comfort Trust vs. doubt Self-sabotage Communication habits Partner compatibility

How It Works

Three steps, about 10 minutes

1

Answer the questions

Rate how much you agree or disagree with statements about relationships. There are no right or wrong answers.

2

Get scored on two dimensions

Your answers are scored on attachment anxiety and attachment avoidance, the two dimensions used in published research.

3

Get your results

Your attachment style, percentage breakdown, and what it means for your relationships.

The four patterns

The Four Attachment Styles

Every person falls somewhere across these four patterns. Most of us lean toward one, and that lean shapes every close relationship you'll ever have.

55%of adults

Secure

Comfortable with closeness and independence.

  • Trusts their partner by default
  • Communicates needs directly
  • Handles conflict without spiralling
Balanced & Trusting
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20%of adults

Anxious

You love hard and feel deeply. Sometimes too deeply.

  • Needs reassurance to feel secure
  • Overthinks texts and tone shifts
  • Fears being too much for a partner
Deep & Intense
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20%of adults

Avoidant

Space and independence feel essential to who you are.

  • Values autonomy above closeness
  • Processes emotions privately
  • Pulls back when things intensify
Independent & Self-Reliant
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5%of adults

Fearful-Avoidant

You crave closeness and fear it at the same time.

  • Pulls people in, then pushes away
  • Deep longing mixed with deep guard
  • Mistrust lives alongside love
Complex & Evolving
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Styles aren't fixed. They shift with self-awareness, therapy, and the right relationships. This test shows you where you are right now.

Your results

What you'll see when you finish

A clear breakdown of your scores across all four styles, with what each one means for you.

Your attachment style is…

Anxious-Preoccupied

You love deeply and feel everything intensely. You might find yourself reading into texts, needing reassurance, or worrying about where you stand.

Style Breakdown

Secure
22%
Anxious
45%
Avoidant
18%
Fearful
15%
Attachment anxiety 3.8/5 High
Attachment avoidance 2.1/5 Low

What This Means for Your Relationships

Your superpower is emotional depth. You notice things others miss. Your challenge is that your radar for rejection can sometimes create the very distance you're trying to avoid...

Tips for Your Style

Practice self-soothing when anxiety rises. Express your needs directly rather than through hints or emotional reactions...

Your score in each of the four styles

Not just a label. The percentages behind it.

Your anxiety and avoidance levels

The two scales the ECR uses to map every attachment pattern.

How your style plays out day-to-day

In arguments, distance, closeness, and trust.

Things to actually try

Specific to your result. Not generic advice.

Who you tend to click with

And the partner types that usually mean trouble.

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Attachment Style Test: Common Questions

What exactly are attachment styles?

Attachment styles describe how you tend to behave in close relationships, particularly romantic ones. They're shaped by your early experiences with caregivers and influence how you handle conflict, express needs, and respond to closeness. The four main styles are Secure, Anxious, Avoidant, and Fearful-Avoidant.

Can my attachment style change?

Yes, absolutely. Your attachment style isn't set in stone. Through self-awareness, healthy relationships, and sometimes therapy, many people shift toward a more secure style over time. Understanding your current style is the first step.

How does this affect my relationships?

Your attachment style shapes how you communicate, handle disagreements, express needs, and respond to closeness. For example, someone with an anxious style might overthink a delayed text, while someone avoidant might need more space after a deep conversation. Neither is wrong. Understanding helps.

How long does the test take?

The questions are all quick agree/disagree style. Most people finish in about 10–15 minutes. There's no timer, so take as long as you need.

Do I need to be in a relationship to take this?

No. You can answer based on how you've felt in past relationships, close friendships, or how you think you'd respond. Attachment patterns show up across all kinds of close relationships.

What research is this test based on?

This test is modelled on the Experiences in Close Relationships (ECR) questionnaire by Brennan, Clark & Shaver (1998). The ECR is the most widely used self-report measure of adult attachment in psychology, cited in over 1,000 peer-reviewed studies. It measures two dimensions: attachment anxiety and attachment avoidance.

The Science Behind This Test

This test is based on decades of published attachment research — not pop psychology.

Attachment theory

Attachment theory was developed by British psychiatrist John Bowlby in the 1960s and expanded by developmental psychologist Mary Ainsworth, whose research identified distinct patterns in how people form emotional bonds. In 1991, Bartholomew & Horowitz mapped these patterns onto four adult attachment styles: Secure, Anxious-Preoccupied, Dismissive-Avoidant, and Fearful-Avoidant.

The ECR scale

This test is modelled on the Experiences in Close Relationships (ECR) questionnaire, published by Brennan, Clark & Shaver in 1998. The ECR measures two core dimensions — attachment anxiety and attachment avoidance — and has been used in over 1,000 peer-reviewed studies worldwide. It is the most widely cited self-report measure of adult attachment in psychology.

How scoring works

Your answers are scored across two dimensions: anxiety (fear of rejection and abandonment) and avoidance (discomfort with closeness and dependence). Your position on these two scales determines which of the four attachment styles best describes your relationship patterns.

Key references

  • Bowlby, J. (1969). Attachment and Loss: Vol. 1. Attachment. Basic Books.
  • Ainsworth, M. D. S., Blehar, M. C., Waters, E., & Wall, S. (1978). Patterns of Attachment. Erlbaum.
  • Bartholomew, K., & Horowitz, L. M. (1991). Attachment styles among young adults. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 61(2), 226–244.
  • Brennan, K. A., Clark, C. L., & Shaver, P. R. (1998). Self-report measurement of adult attachment. In J. A. Simpson & W. S. Rholes (Eds.), Attachment Theory and Close Relationships (pp. 46–76). Guilford Press.

Grounded in peer-reviewed research

Modelled on the Experiences in Close Relationships (ECR) scale, cited in over 1,000 peer-reviewed studies. Not pop psychology, not Buzzfeed.

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Built for every kind of mind

No speed pressure, no trick questions, no shame. Go at your own pace and answer honestly. There are no right or wrong answers here.

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Private by default

Your answers stay on your device. No accounts, no tracking. Optional email delivery of your results, only if you want a copy.

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Ready to find out your attachment style?

Takes about 10 minutes. Find out which of the four attachment styles fits you best.